So you're a people-pleaser.
Big deal. So am I.
And so is the guy next door, Oprah and the President of The United States.
In fact, everyone's a people-pleaser to some extent.
And that’s fine and healthy. Needing to be loved and approved of is as natural as wanting food and shelter.
It’s when you become addicted to pleasing people that it's a problem.
In fact, more than a problem, a disease.
'The Disease To Please' as H. B. Braiker called it.
And it’s consuming you.
You want everyone to like you. To love you. You dread disapproval.
And people-pleasing seems the safe way to inoculate yourself against conflict and confrontation in relationships, whether family, friends, or at work.
You fail to speak up, fail to say what’s on your mind, fail to allow yourself to be the real you.
Fail to say 'no'.
So how do you know if you've got the disease to please? If you're a 'yes' junkie?
Just be honest with yourself...
Are you constantly running around being everyone else's go-to person?
- The one who will always change their plans at a moment’s notice.
- The one who will always take on more work and stay late.
- The one who’s still clearing away everyone else’s trash at the end of the party.
The one who will always say 'yes'.
The one who never says 'no'.
Because if so, it's screwing up your life. No, scrub that. It's already screwed up your life.
If it can be called your life, because your 'yes' addiction comes at a heavy price...