Possibly the topic with the most nonsense ever written about it.
Countless articles, books, and quotes on happiness – they’re full of it.
What a crime!
Because happiness is a precious commodity.
And really quite simple…
Or maybe that’s just my me adding more nonsense to the already burgeoning mountain of misinformation about happiness.
But it really struck me this morning because I woke up to a gray, rainy day.
And I didn’t feel happy. Not happy at all. Even though nothing had happened. No bad news. No big difficulty. Still, I felt down.
So, who am I to talk about happiness if a little gray can knock me off my course?
Good question because normally I have a raft of tricks to get myself back to happy but they didn’t work this morning.
Yikes! Maybe all my previous words about happiness were just as much nonsense?
Or maybe I had a choice?
Those heavy ‘gray skies’ weren’t going away any time soon and magically sprouting gills and a fish tail so I could make it to the shops in the flood wasn’t going to happen either.
So I’d have to defeat the gray skies by making my own sunshine.
Which sounded like a way too much effort.
But wailing, groaning and whining is so much more effort. I tried it all through breakfast this morning so I know that’s true 😊. Making your own sunshine isn’t always the easy route but it’s easier than wallowing in your own misery.
So how did I get out of my rainy day funk then?
7 Almost Magical Quotes to Turn Your Gray Skies to Blue
1. The secret to happiness is to face the fact that the world is horrible.~Bertrand Russell
First up, I mourned the loss of all my fun outdoor plans. They were important to me and pretending they weren’t wouldn’t have helped at all. Acknowledging that I’d missed out today but they’d be waiting another time blew a few wisps of the black clouds in my coffee away.
2. Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it. ~Bernard Meltzer
Then I skipped ahead to plan the very end of the day: cozy pjs, my marvelous hubby, a comfy sofa, a cuddly doggie companion, my favorite movie feast and a buffet of the best snacks on the planet. Now I knew the day was going to end superbly the rain sounded a little lighter against the window.
3. A smile is happiness you’ll find right under your nose. ~Tom Wilson
With my comfiest, ‘I’m on holiday’ clothes on under my raincoat I went looking for a smile. I dodged across the flooded car park in town to the local supermarket. Not too glam, I know but it’s a magical gem for finding sunshine. The store is stocked with… absolutely the most friendly, helpful, chatty staff I’ve ever met. You’d think it was simply a crazy-busy out of town store with a million faceless shoppers passing through, but no.I left with a random selection of unhealthy, tasty goodies and my smile, feeling a whole lot better than at breakfast.
4. Friendship is the shadow of the evening, which increases with the setting sun of life. ~Jean de La Fontaine
As I opened the door, the phone rang. ‘Not in the mood’ I thought and unpacked my random pick-me-up groceries. Then I remembered a friend had had a difficult time recently. Maybe I should check? A friend’s number twice on the screen – ah, okay. It turned out a little help was needed, nothing major, it wouldn’t put me out. So two furry houseguests and I sat at my laptop with a second cuppa. The puddles outside in the drive were starting to drain away despite the rain still falling heavily – maybe it wouldn’t be such a damp squib of a day after all.
5. A good laugh is sunshine in the house. ~William Makepeace Thackeray
Yes, yes ten minutes of funny cat videos – the ones where they spring out on each other (tee hee) and another ten minutes of dogs gambolling in snow – both made me laugh out loud. Twenty minutes probably became an hour in truth – too fun! My chuckling was louder than the crazy weather battering the house – ah, now somehow it felt like the torrential rain was easing somewhat.
6. Kindness is the sunshine in which virtue grows. ~Robert Green Ingersoll
I’m a natural light girl but the day was so gloomy I put on all the lights I could. Brighter felt better. Movement in the front garden caught my eye – oh, gosh a family of pheasants drenched to the skin and a single, soggy partridge running to keep up with them – all heading determinedly in the direction of our bird table. Quick as I could, I whipped out the front door and filled up all the ground feeders. Dripping over my laptop, I perched on my desk to watch them charge down the table.
7. Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be. ~Abraham Lincoln
I know that if I don’t get much movement in a day I feel sluggish and my creativity goes to mush… but the weather! Going out was a definite ‘No No’. I’d recently started on a fun plan to get fitter with a new bike and a tick off chart for each day of the week and everything. I couldn’t let the weather scupper that. So, I jumped on our static bike and set my Kindle to play fabulous videos of Bryce Canyon, pretending I was whizzing along the amazing red sand paths in glorious sunshine. I swear my increased heart rate matched my increased mood as I climbed off the static bike 40 minutes later.
Turn Your Gray Skies to Blue
Gray, thunderous skies are simply hiding the sunshine…temporarily.
Obvious, I know. And yet sometimes when the sun disappears it feels like it might not make it back out for way too long. Especially, when it’s not real sunshine we’re talking about, but when our mood turns rainy for whatever reason.
And the nonsense that’s been written about happiness that I mentioned?
What was that about?
That wasn’t meant to be rude or insulting. I simply mean when we look really hard for something and study and research and yearn to learn…
…we can get too caught up when the solution’s actually very simple, even if not always easy.
Making our own sunshine is a case of doing what makes us feel, well, sunshiney.
And for each of us that can be very different
Indulging in your favorite EVERYTHING is the surest route to blowing away all the gray clouds.
Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.~Anthony J. D’Angelo
Happy sunshine making 😊