How to Halve Your Worries & Double Your Happiness – The Experts Cut

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Do you want to halve your worries?

And double your happiness?

Silly question, perhaps. Because there’s probably no one alive who wouldn’t want to worry less.

Sometimes it seems there just aren’t enough hours in the day for all the things we have to worry about.

Because worry is a vicious cycle: the more we worry, the more it sets off a chain reaction of more worry.

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12 Gratitude Quotes That Made Me a Believer

12 Gratitude Quotes That Made Me Grateful Again

It sounds very noble, doesn’t it?

To practice Gratitude.

It has that wonderful aura of something ancient and mystical.

Like a magical sprite in a fairytale that flits hither and thither, turning darkness into light, pain to joy, sorrow to happiness.

In fact it’s been touted as such a cure-all for difficult times and misfortune that it’s becoming something of a joke. A parody.

Just another ‘new age fad’, like hot yoga, or positive thinking. Or coconut oil.

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How To Halve Your Worries And Double Your Happiness

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Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow. Swedish Proverb

Are you plagued by worries?

Do negative thoughts keep you awake at night?

Do they scuttle around the inside of your head? Burrow into your brain, scratching at your frayed nerves, gnawing at your happiness?

Worrying your already threadbare peace of mind to tatters?

It’s a vicious cycle of worry and negative thinking. Like a virus, it takes over your life, infecting every part of your happiness.

And like the plague, once you’re infected, you’d best quit making plans.

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6 Ways To Force Lady Luck To Beat A Path To YOUR Door

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Isn’t that just your luck?

Another opportunity passed you by.

Another year the same old same old.

Another disappointment to force down.

And what makes it even harder to swallow is that some people just seem to have all the luck. Exciting opportunities seems to fall into their laps.

Can it really be that some people are just born lucky?

Perhaps. I don’t honestly know the answer to that. What I do know is that you can make your own luck. You can choose to be the person who attracts opportunity, who has exciting offers fall into their lap.

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The Ultimate Guilt-Free Guide To Saying NO!

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​All the mistakes I ever made in my life were when I wanted to say no, and said yes.

Moss Hart

Are you afflicted with the disease to please?

So you're a people-pleaser.​​

Big deal. So am I.

And so is the guy next door, Oprah and the President of The United States.

In fact, everyone's a people-pleaser to some extent.

And that’s fine and healthy.  Needing to be loved and approved of is as natural as wanting food and shelter.

It’s when you become addicted to pleasing people that it's a problem.

In fact, more than a problem, a disease.

'The Disease To Please' as H. B. Braiker called it.

And it’s consuming you.

You want everyone to like you. To love you. You dread disapproval.

And people-pleasing seems the safe way to inoculate yourself against conflict and confrontation in relationships, whether family, friends, or at work.

You fail to speak up, fail to say what’s on your mind, fail to allow yourself to be the real you.

Fail to say 'no'.​

So how do you know if you've got the disease to please? If you're a 'yes' junkie?

Just be honest with yourself...

Are you constantly running around being everyone else's go-to person?

  • The one who will always change their plans at a moment’s notice.
  • The one who will always take on more work and stay late.
  • The one who’s still clearing away everyone else’s trash at the end of the party.

The one who will always say 'yes'.

The one who never says 'no'.

Because if so, it's screwing up your life. No, scrub that. It's already screwed up your life.

If it can be called your life, because your 'yes' addiction comes at a heavy price...

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