Category Archives for "Happiness & Positivity"
Do you agree?
Setting goals is very similar to arranging formal dinner parties.
Or maybe you've never made the connection?
I hadn't until last week when I was arranging my own dinner party.
Do you want to halve your worries?
And double your happiness?
Silly question, perhaps. Because there's probably no one alive who wouldn't want to worry less.
Sometimes it seems there just aren't enough hours in the day for all the things we have to worry about.
Because worry is a vicious cycle: the more we worry, the more it sets off a chain reaction of more worry.
But what can you do about it?
Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow. Swedish Proverb
Are you plagued by worries?
Do negative thoughts keep you awake at night?
Do they scuttle around the inside of your head? Burrow into your brain, scratching at your frayed nerves, gnawing at your happiness?
Worrying your already threadbare peace of mind to tatters?
It’s a vicious cycle of worry and negative thinking. Like a virus, it takes over your life, infecting every part of your happiness.
And like the plague, once you’re infected, you’d best quit making plans.
Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency.
Are you keeping up?
Because the pace of modern life is frantic.
And it's all too easy to fall behind with commitments and responsibilities:
There's an endless list of expectations and tasks on your already tyrannical to-do list.
You run like a frenzied hamster on a wheel but still can't keep up.
Because the truth is, most mornings just getting your ass out of the door on time is a major achievement.
And another frozen TV dinner on your return, a major culinary event.
And inbetween, that wheel never stops spinning, ever faster.
What a waste!
You’re as happy as a kid in a sandbox, all set for a positively great day.
And then the flames of discontent start to smoulder...
And why do my keys think it's hilarious to hide when I'm in such a rush?
But once you’ve left the house it just gets worse...
All the mistakes I ever made in my life were when I wanted to say no, and said yes.
So you're a people-pleaser.
Big deal. So am I.
And so is the guy next door, Oprah and the President of The United States.
In fact, everyone's a people-pleaser to some extent.
And that’s fine and healthy. Needing to be loved and approved of is as natural as wanting food and shelter.
It’s when you become addicted to pleasing people that it's a problem.
In fact, more than a problem, a disease.
'The Disease To Please' as H. B. Braiker called it.
And it’s consuming you.
You want everyone to like you. To love you. You dread disapproval.
And people-pleasing seems the safe way to inoculate yourself against conflict and confrontation in relationships, whether family, friends, or at work.
You fail to speak up, fail to say what’s on your mind, fail to allow yourself to be the real you.
Fail to say 'no'.
So how do you know if you've got the disease to please? If you're a 'yes' junkie?
Just be honest with yourself...
Are you constantly running around being everyone else's go-to person?
The one who will always say 'yes'.
The one who never says 'no'.
Because if so, it's screwing up your life. No, scrub that. It's already screwed up your life.
If it can be called your life, because your 'yes' addiction comes at a heavy price...
How do you fight back when the odds are racked against you?
How do you keep taking the blows and yet manage to stay standing?
And if you do get knocked down, how the hell do you have the guts to get back up and keep fighting?
When experience convinces you that you can’t.
When professionals tell you there’s no chance.
When you’ve only just enough puff left to lay down and wish it wasn’t so.
Now we’re pretty all-out positive here at Positively Happy.Me – the clues in the name:) – but no matter how positive you may be, you’ve got to admit that life can have a nasty, mean streak. It can throw a challenge at you that leaves you feeling it’s beaten all the fight out of you.
Oh boy, that hurts. That hurts inside and out.
It’s raw. It’s rough. It’s relentless.
But there’s one surprising thing that challenge isn’t, no matter what that difficulty is.
It isn’t stronger than you.
Sure it feels like it is. Sure you’re right to question if you’ve enough strength to win against the odds. After all, you may not have won through…yet.
That’s why I have to share these amazing people with you. Each one is my ‘can-I-shake-your-hand’ hero for a different reason.
They’ve overcome huge adversity.
They’ve shown that there’s a way round any insurmountable obstacle.
They’ve proved that we’re all stronger than we think.
Heck, they’ve aced life’s meanest challenges.Come see how to find the fight to punch life right back in the face, no matter how tired or beaten you feel: