The Ultimate Guilt-Free Guide To Saying NO!

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​All the mistakes I ever made in my life were when I wanted to say no, and said yes.

Moss Hart

Are you afflicted with the disease to please?

So you're a people-pleaser.​​

Big deal. So am I.

And so is the guy next door, Oprah and the President of The United States.

In fact, everyone's a people-pleaser to some extent.

And that’s fine and healthy.  Needing to be loved and approved of is as natural as wanting food and shelter.

It’s when you become addicted to pleasing people that it's a problem.

In fact, more than a problem, a disease.

'The Disease To Please' as H. B. Braiker called it.

And it’s consuming you.

You want everyone to like you. To love you. You dread disapproval.

And people-pleasing seems the safe way to inoculate yourself against conflict and confrontation in relationships, whether family, friends, or at work.

You fail to speak up, fail to say what’s on your mind, fail to allow yourself to be the real you.

Fail to say 'no'.​

So how do you know if you've got the disease to please? If you're a 'yes' junkie?

Just be honest with yourself...

Are you constantly running around being everyone else's go-to person?

  • The one who will always change their plans at a moment’s notice.
  • The one who will always take on more work and stay late.
  • The one who’s still clearing away everyone else’s trash at the end of the party.

The one who will always say 'yes'.

The one who never says 'no'.

Because if so, it's screwing up your life. No, scrub that. It's already screwed up your life.

If it can be called your life, because your 'yes' addiction comes at a heavy price...

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27 Inspirational Bloggers Who Fought Back Against Adversity

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How do you fight back when the odds are racked against you?

How do you keep taking the blows and yet manage to stay standing?

And if you do get knocked down, how the hell do you have the guts to get back up and keep fighting?

When experience convinces you that you can’t.

When professionals tell you there’s no chance.

When you’ve only just enough puff left to lay down and wish it wasn’t so.

Now we’re pretty all-out positive here at Positively Happy.Me – the clues in the name:) – but no matter how positive you may be, you’ve got to admit that life can have a nasty, mean streak. It can throw a challenge at you that leaves you feeling it’s beaten all the fight out of you.

Oh boy, that hurts. That hurts inside and out.

It’s raw. It’s rough. It’s relentless.

But there’s one surprising thing that challenge isn’t, no matter what that difficulty is.

It isn’t stronger than you.

Period.

Sure it feels like it is. Sure you’re right to question if you’ve enough strength to win against the odds. After all, you may not have won through…yet.

That’s why I have to share these amazing people with you. Each one is my ‘can-I-shake-your-hand’ hero for a different reason.
They’ve overcome huge adversity.

They’ve shown that there’s a way round any insurmountable obstacle.

They’ve proved that we’re all stronger than we think.

Heck, they’ve aced life’s meanest challenges.Come see how to find the fight to punch life right back in the face, no matter how tired or beaten you feel:
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